Here’s some good news: you’ve already got the hardest part out of the way! If you’re pondering how to text a girl, then this likely means that you’ve already completed the most difficult step to getting laid, which is making the approach & asking for her number. The approach and asking for the girl’s number takes so much courage that it’s all downhill from that point.
So, relax! If you already have her number, then there’s still work to do, but you’ve already completed the hardest part of the process of getting laid!
When to Text a Girl
When to send a text is the first consideration. Years ago, a concept known as the “three-day rule” entered the dating sphere. The 3-day rule developed out of a consciousness that appearing desperate (“thirsty,” in today’s terms) is never a good thing. Desperation grosses people out. The three-day rule states that you should wait a full three calendar days before calling/texting/contacting the girl, after getting her phone number, and again after your first date. The idea is that a contact (phone call, text, etc.) the following day will seem too desperate, the second day will seem too orchestrated, and the third day is just right. On this basis, it could also be called the “Goldilocks Rule.”
Although I usually use the Goldilocks rule after my initial approach, I’ll generally text – just one single text – immediately once I get her number, something fundamental, “Hey, this is Mike. It was nice to meet you.” I’ll also sometimes include a nice headshot of myself so that she can remember my appearance (which she obviously wasn’t repulsed by, or I wouldn’t have her number). Plus, I like to save prospects’ pics as their profile image in my contacts; perhaps she’ll be the same way. After that, unless she proactively engages me in conversation back, I’ll generally apply the Goldilocks / 3-Day Rule from that point forward.
Ultimately, one style (waiting to text or not) may better suit a particular guy and individual leads/prospects (girls). I’d advise you to start making LOTS of approaches, so that you can get LOTS of numbers, so that you can “A/B test,” and see which method (waiting to text or not) works for you, in your particular geographic area, with the kind of girls that you’re approaching. For example, it could be that white girls from Tampa LOVE when a guy aggressively starts texting & trying to hook up the same day as the approach, whereas that same behavior would be a total turn-off for Asian girls from L.A. There are so many variables out there that you need to determine what methods work best for you when it comes to the timing of your texts.
How to Text a Girl
I was a teenager in high school & a virgin when I met a certain Latina girl and asked her to “date” me. Although she agreed, I was awkward and unsure of myself. I knew what I wanted (some pussy), but NOBODY had ever taught me how the fuck to get it. (That’s the main reason that I launched my How to Get Laid Masterclass. I want to be that big brother or mentor to men, young or old, worldwide, who want to get pussy, but have no idea HOW to do so.)
Shortly after the Latina girl agreed to “date” me (a virgin, at that time), an O.G. gangster guy that lived in my neighborhood taught me an essential life & dating lesson. He said, “however you were when she met you… whatever kind of clothing style, persona, energy, etc., you were presenting when she agreed to give you her number / go out with you / date you / kiss you / etc., you need to maintain that. Be consistent. She liked what she saw. Don’t go switching it up on her.“
As covered in the introduction of this article, if you have the girl’s number, you’ve already completed the single most challenging part of the process (the approach & number acquisition). As fickle as women are, she CHOSE to open herself up to you, at least to the extent of sharing her name & phone number with you (assuming she gave you her actual number).
Would she have done this if she suspected that you were a serial killer? Would she have done this if she thought you were completely ugly? Would she have given you her phone number if she didn’t foresee some potential in the relationship (be it a booty call, a friend with benefits, long-term boyfriend, husband, sugar daddy, etc.)?
Your text messages to the girl must match the energy you came at her with during your approach. If you came at her super low-key (for example, “let’s go out sometime & get to know each other“), then an immediate text of, “Dayum girl… yo ass was lookin’ phat A.F. in dem jeans,” might be a little overboard & incongruent with the energy you presented during your approach.
On the other hand, if you initially approached her with hyper-sexual energy, staring at her titties, and making your intent of fucking abundantly clear from the get-go, then a low-key text of “looking forward to taking you out sometime & seeing where things go” could be a turn-off to her, and that’s because the overall presentation & energy changed.
Be consistent. Don’t go switching things up on her.
Remain Focused on Your Goal
It’s not only your energy that needs to remain consistent; your focus & intention should remain constant as well. When texting a girl I met, my goal is always straightforward: I’m trying to get some pussy. Yours might be the same, or it might be very different. You might be looking for a wife, the future mother of your children. Maybe you’re looking for a girlfriend. Who knows… perhaps you’re a car salesman and you’re looking to sell her a car.
Regardless, with each text message you send, remember to remain goal-focused. Right now, as I’m writing this article, I’m working on a girl that I’ve been texting with for a few days. I’ve been overtly sexual & even lewdly direct with my intentions, but to no avail. On the other hand, she’s the one that keeps initiating the text conversations, which tells me that she’s still interested.
I keep asking for sex (via text) and running into a wall… “I’m not shaved,” or “I’m busy with work & school” or “my roommate’s home right now.” In this particular case, I decided to alter my approach to see if that works better. I texted, “no problem… let’s just hang out.” She asked what we’ll do when we hang out. I suggested kayaking. Regardless, I’m steadfastly remembering my goal of getting laid. I want some pussy. And she knows it. In fact, once I brought up kayaking, she actually returned the conversation to sexual matters. Since the story is unfolding as I’m writing this, time will reveal how it turns out (if I end up fucking her or not).
Texting a girl without a clear goal in mind is bound to be a fruitless waste of time. Assess your goal, and stick to it.
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